Anger Management-Control Anger Before it Controls You

Anger Management

What is Anger?

To put in a layman’s perspective,

• When something doesn’t happen the way we want it to
• When somebody tries to dominate us
• When we are forced to do something
• When we get disappointed if things are not favorable and many more situations that kindle within us a feeling – which is called frustration if the intensity is mild and rage if the intensity is huge.

This type of anger pertains to “self”; anger also erupts if our loved ones, near and dear ones experience threat or when you want to oppose a social stigma or when you feel helpless in a situation.”

On top of all this “A Hungry Man is always Angry“, Do you agree with me?

I want to ask a simple question, “Are the poor to blame for being poor?“. Well, this is a social problem and every one of us must be angry if the people of our own country are below the poverty line and not being able to eat atleast twice a day.

How to Control Anger?

How do we define Anger Management?

• Coming to Anger Management, it is training for temper control and is the skill of remaining calm. It has been described as deploying anger successfully.
• Anger management is the process of learning to recognize signs that you’re becoming angry, and taking action to calm down and deal with the situation in a positive way.

We have to understand the crucial fact that ” In no way does anger management mean holding the anger in or trying to keep from feeling anger. Anger is a normal human emotion, a healthy one when it is expressed appropriately“.

What Makes People Angry? 

I want to list down some of the most common things that make people angry.

The most common factors that make people angry are:

• Grief – losing a loved one.
• Sexual frustration
• Rudeness
• Tiredness
• Hunger
• Pain
• Withdrawal from drugs or some medications
• Some physical conditions, such as pre-menstrual syndrome
• Physical illness
• Mental illness
• Alcohol, some drugs, alcohol abuse, drug abuse
• Injustice
• Being teased or bullied
• Humiliation
• Embarrassment
• Deadlines
• Traffic jams
• Disappointment
• Sloppy service
• Failure
• Infidelity
• Burglary
• Financial problems
• Being told you have a serious illness

Courtesy – http://www.medicalnewstoday.com/

You know, I get angry even if  I hear somebody munching or chewing something and I can never stand that sound! I googled to know more about my shortcoming and was relieved to find that I have good company on this issue. Read this news:

‘The sound of my boyfriend chewing makes me want to strangle him’: Model, 20, has a phobia of NOISE which makes her fly into a rage when she hears someone eating.” (This medical condition is called “Misophonia” which literally means hatred of sound and seems to be a neurological disorder).

• Faith Watson, 20, has misophonia – the hatred of sound
• Certain noises – including chewing – make her irrationally angry
• At meals she has to have the TV on so she can’t hear people chewing
• She had to drop out of college after being tormented by classroom noises
• Now she has been officially diagnosed, she is rebuilding her life and trying to make a career as a model

Courtesy – http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/

I personally feel that people have become restless in general and want everything to happen in a jiffy.

Rationale and Logic have taken a back seat and we all are evolving as one group with SUPER-EGO and IMPATIENCE.

What is the reason behind this? Are we becoming insensitive to others’ feelings? Have we forgotten to enjoy moments of happiness how small it may be?

In my opinion there are only two types of anger:

1. Constuctive Anger – that which helps to solve a problem
2. Destructive Anger – that which heightens the intensity of a problem ending in chaos.

In between elements like mild irritation, frustration, anxiety etc., all can be handled or treated.

What is the Remedy?

• Stress Free Living
• Double Your Productivity

Understand how you react to situations and that will help you to know more about yourself. No two persons are alike and so are their characteristics, but if you happen to be in the following circumstances then you may need some help:

• You frequently feel that you have to hold in your anger.
• You have numerous arguments with people around you, especially your partner, parents, children or colleagues.
• You find yourself involved in fights.
• You hit your partner or children.
• You threaten violence to people or property.
• You have outbursts where you break things.
• You lose your temper when driving and become reckless.
• You think that perhaps you do need help.

I welcome comments on “How to control your anger” and “Genuine and Workable  Anger Management Tips for Employees” for the benefit of the masses.