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3 Things Every Woman Should Know About Domestic Abuse

3 Things Every Woman Should Know About Domestic Abuse
Domestic abuse is still more widespread than many people care to believe in the 21st century and that’s why it’s imperative to understand exactly what it is and what can be done about it. As defined by the CDC, domestic abuse is also referred to as “intimate partner violence”. Domestic abuse or violence can occur between heterosexual as well as same-sex couples. 1 in 4 women is reported to have experienced some form of domestic violence with ‘only’ 1 in 9 men reporting being victimized. In other words, women are more than twice as likely to be the victims of domestic abuse, and it is to them that we speak today. Here are three things every woman should know. 1. It Is a Crime in All States Although domestic violence is a crime in all states, each state has similar but different wording within the law. In Illinois, for example, the laws are set forth in the Illinois Domestic Violence Act that clearly defines exactly what constitutes domestic violence, DV, and what the consequences for being found guilty could be. Also, you should know that if you have been a victim of DV, you have the right to be compensated for any injuries, physical or emotional, you have received. This would be where you would consult with an Illinois lawyer for abuse to seek the compensation you so rightfully deserve.  Also, as stated in the law, DV relates to any intimate relationship, so it is not only violence perpetrated by a husband. Any person a woman is romantically involved with can be the perpetrator, and they don’t even need to be sexually involved either! 2. There Is No Need to Suffer in Silence Often, women suffer in silence. Sometimes it is fear of being victimized even more severely. Men know that it is a criminal act to abuse or violate their partner, yet they are not always in control of their actions. You should know that help is out there and if you are uncertain where to find it, one thing you can do is go to the emergency room at a local hospital.  They will help you find resources to ensure your safety and at the very least call law enforcement for you if you fear for your safety. There is a National Domestic Violence Hotline you can also call, and all calls are confidential. They will tell you where Domestic Abuse Shelters are in your area and can help put you in touch with other resources as well. 3. It Is in Your Power to Put an End to It From filing a restraining order to seeking shelter in a Domestic Violence Shelter for women, there is always something you can do to put an end to it. There is no need to continue suffering abuse and if you think it will ‘get better,’ 99.9% of the time it will NOT end without intervention.  Being the victim of DV is no longer the societal stigma it once was and few people ‘blame’ the woman anymore. You are urged to be strong and proactive. Take steps to protect yourself from further abuse because no one deserves to be the recipient of violence. If nothing else, contact that domestic abuse lawyer mentioned above. They can point you in the right direction to get the help you need....
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The Emotional Science Behind a Happy Relationship

The Emotional Science Behind a Happy Relationship
How Can a Strong Emotional Intelligence Foster a Happy Relationship? The Emotional Science Behind a Happy Relationship – Lets see some surprising elements that hold couples together. It is a well known fact that couples where both people have high levels of Emotional Intelligence are closer, are more committed to one another, and are more satisfied in their relationships. But what is it about EI that is so helpful? The study authors suggest that being able to manage your own emotions, understand your partners’ emotions and behave in emotionally competent ways, all contribute to a happy love life. They also suggest that you likely model good emotional skills when you’re high in EI, and these skills may rub off on you partner, benefiting you both. Happy Couples Talk More People in the most successful marriages spend quality time together talking for 5 hours or more in a week. The determining or deciding factor whether a couple feels satisfied with the sex, romance and passion is by 80% the quality of their friendship with each other. We always see good friends getting married eventually and the success rate is quite high. Im here with you Stay with me As you communicate with each other, don’t listen what you want to hear, but listen to what your partner is trying to convey, because it is the same thing you would expect of him/her to do. Notice whether your partner seems stressed, frazzled, sad, frustrated, confused, pleased, glad, joyful, etc. Such emotional attunement will level up your ability to understand him/her better, and respond in ways that lead to happy and long-lasting relationships. Celebrate Your Partner’s Success This is a crucial factor in a relationship that strengthens your bond. When your partner comes with a good news, you have to say, “Honey, am really proud of you, tell me more about it. Being enthusiastic for small beautiful things about your partner may bring about big amazing results. This especially holds good for a man when his girl accomplishes something, because the only person she wants to appreciate her more than anybody else would be her husband. Find out Your Shared Interests Try to do something together that makes you both happy. Go for an evening walk or dine together in a new restaurant or may be you could start exploring a new place. Happy couples tend to bring out the best in each other. Managing the Moments of Tension Healthy arguments are always part of a relationship – marriage or friendship. When it crosses the limit, happy couples tend to bring it to a truce as quick as possible – through a short message saying Sorry or I Love You or “Friends?” Humor is always part of a happy relationship and how it helps you at times like these is beyond imagination! Plus, a little compromise from one’s end is not a crime – when it helps to hold your relationship together. Unhappy couples tend to do these things when they fight Criticize Show contempt Act defensively Resort to name-calling Tune out At the end of any conflict, focus on reconnecting and rebuilding emotional bonds strained by the conflict. Choose to Trust Your Partner When you build trust in a relationship, you are exercising the best possible relationship management, which is one of the four primary areas of emotional intelligence. Always assume the best of the people you care about, or those you work closely with. This is not only beneficial to your view of the other person, it helps you to move closer to the positive, loving person that you truly are at the core of your being. Trust is a choice you make, it’s not something you wait for the other...
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